I can’t believe that it has been so long since I’ve been to this blog. It isn’t from lack of wanting to be here, but life has just had me so busy that I haven’t had much time to write. I need to change that, but I seem to be jumping from one social project to the next, or one house project to the next as of late.

This weekend I’ll spend traveling to visit friends and celebrate the pending birth of a friends baby with a baby shower.

What are y’all up to?

A musician friend of mine is on the road now traveling with his band to various small clubs across the Mid-West. He sent me a message the other night that he was having some issues with one of his guitars, so they had to spend the night in Kansas so he could pop in to guitar center kansas to get what he needed so he could get back on the road again and perform. He was thrilled at how quickly he was able to get everything he needed and they could travel on towards Iowa, their next destination.

Gotta love a good Internet connection and Google maps to get us to the places we need to find in cities that aren’t our own.

Tonight- I’ll be turning on Hulu and catching up with my favorite programs from earlier in the week. I’ll be ‘home alone’ tonight, and that means watch what I want- not have to give the remote to anyone, and soak up all the girl time with none other than me, myself and I. As much as I love people and my guy- I also love spending time with myself. First up- a soak in the bathtub, then I’ll curl up with a blanket, turn on Hulu via the Smart TV and off I go- into the world of somewhere else.

Now if I could only find someone to deliver me some popcorn, life would be perfect.

Yesterday the door bell rang for me to find someone from a delivery service for a package. For a moment I was very excited thinking that I was receiving some unexpected something- until they asked if I would be willing to accept a package from my neighbor who wasn’t home. Since they do it for us from time to time, and it’s the neighborly thing to do- I said yes.

Last night he came by and said he appreciated me accepting the package- because he’d been expecting something from music friend retailer and needed it for the weekend. He got called into work unexpectedly and was stressed that he was going to miss the delivery of something he really needed.

His music weekend is complete. He’s grateful and I’m happy I could help, without even knowing how important it was to him. After all- that’s what neighbors are for, right?

Today I received a text from one of my friends back home.   We went to school together from elementary all the way through high school   We graduated together and went our separate ways, losing contact until the beauty of Facebook brought us together again.    When I’m home I always try to see her.  She is funny and beautiful inside and out.

We don’t talk often between my visits home, but we will send each other a text via iMessage on our iPhones on occasion just to check in and say “Hi”.     Today I had one of those texts from her and I couldn’t help but laugh when I read it.

It said:  Hey girl-  Just wanted to say hi and tell you how much I love your Snaps.  (On Snapchat for those of you who don’t know what a ‘snap’ is.)   You are always off on some fun adventure.

I laughed.    When I finished working I sent her a quick message back and said hi-  Wished them a great Christmas season and told her that sometimes my adventures are not in the ‘fun’ category, like a few days ago when we were stranded on the side of the road for 4.5 hours waiting for help in an area that was totally unfamiliar to us.

I told her that I didn’t ‘snap’ that, but if I hadn’t been trying to preserve my battery life-  I probably would have, as it would have helped pass the time.

It is another example of what we put out there is only a glimpse into what is really going on in our lives-     I take everything I see online with a grain of salt- because I know for the most part it’s the highlights of someones life as opposed to the daily ins and outs.    But when we seem to think that someone else’s highlights should be compared to our own lives- it’s when we are asking for trouble.

Remember-   Comparison is the thief of joy.  I can’t remember who said that, but there is SO much truth to it-    Shine in your own light-  you are brilliant and unique just as you are.    None of us need to be like another to be worthy.

Happy Holiday Season.   May yours be merry and bright!

When I was growing up- one of our family favorites was Hee Haw. I don’t know if you’ve ever watched it, but it featured a lot of country music and my parents adored it. I did as a child, but as I got older, I came to loathe it. I mean after all- Rock n Roll came into the picture and the rest was history for me.

Imagine my surprise when my brother made the comment that he was looking at a banjo musicians friend because he thought he would like to learn how to play. If he had said the drums I wouldn’t have been surprised, or even if he’d said the trumpet, but a banjo? You could have knocked me over with a feather. Of course- I couldn’t help but think about Hee Haw and wonder if the thought crossed his mind as well. It’s definitely something that will be brought up during Christmas.

When you have a family member who has decided to start a sideline business of being a DJ, and he has little equipment, it makes Christmas shopping for him VERY easy! When his parents called and asked what they could get the guy who has everything- it was easy for me to chime in with serato dj controller as I knew it was in the price range of what they wanted to spend for his gift, plus they are people who like to make sure to purchase something that people use, rather than buying to be buying and it landing in a closet or re-gifted.

As for me- I’m making a list and checking it against what others end up buying my favorite guy. Something tells me his new venture is going to get a lot easier for him once Christmas has passed and he sees how many people have surprised him. Especially since he thinks I’m the only one who knows about his new venture. Usually I wouldn’t be the one to share his news, but in this case, it will be great to see him receiving gifts that will help him in his new venture. I know it’s going to be a great Christmas.

I am so grateful for my friends! I really don’t have enough words to explain just how grateful I am for each and every one of them. For the individuality that they bring to my life for simply being themselves, for my inner circle giving me a safe place to fall if I need them. Several months ago- a good friend asked if I was doing my annual friendsgiving with group of seven friends and their guys- Since so many were traveling and doing other things during this time of the year- we decided not to do our get together in November this year, so I told her no.

She asked if we could share a Friendsgiving together and I was happy to say yes. It’s only going to be us, plus her family, and the husband of a friend of ours because she’s traveling and he’s ‘home alone’.

We are sharing the cooking- Me bringing a pumpkin cheesecake, plus a turkey breast and also a ham. I’ll also make some homemade dinner rolls that I’ll bake the morning of. She’s taking care of the stuffing, her traditional potato salad, a fall salad and steamed veggies. We will have a mostly healthy’ish’ feast and I’m looking forward to the time together.

I’ve been feeling a little homesick lately, so this will be a definite plus with me not being able to be ‘home’ for the holidays with my family and friends there.

Christmas- outside of dinner with my mother in law on the 26th- we have no major set plans, but I’m excited to see it all come together and see who we will be spending our time with. I know that it will be great no matter what. If you know someone is alone this holiday season- invite them to share in some time with you.

It’s so hard for so many people who are alone- and a little kindness goes a long way.

A while back I saw something that said- Disconnect to Connect. I paused for a moment to think about what that meant to me and I realized that not only is being ‘connected’ all the time making us disconnect from those closest to us that we don’t often take time to disconnect from everything else and connect with ourselves.

It’s something I’ve been VERY guilty of. I love people, so I love interacting with them- be it in person or via technology a world away. It makes me happy. At the same time- I’ve also noticed that as great as this year has been on many levels, I’ve also lost a connection to myself.

I’ve known for months that I was on this threshold of ‘something’. I’ve had the strong urge to disconnect with pretty much everything and be fully still with myself. My head is constantly full of some sort of information, some sort of list I need to get done- but yet it’s all external stuff. I had forgotten 1- How to release the constant chatter in my head (by writing- something I’d gotten away from but I’m realizing the positive impact writing has on my life) and 2- how to disconnect from everything else and connect with ‘me’.

I started by disconnecting Facebook for a while. Outside of my business page, I have abandoned the FB world- and I really don’t think anyone has noticed, or cares. I spent some time away with my favorite guy- and plan to do some more of that at the beginning of the month.

A friendship that I thought was over is slowly being rebuilt.

I’m disconnecting in so many ways- but connecting on a deeper level not only with myself but so much more.

How do you connect with yourself?

Fall is definitely in the air, the sun rises later, the daylight hours are shorter, and the temperatures are slowly dropping. I find myself so energized by this weather and all that the season brings.

Tonight, despite the 50 degree temps, the weather was so perfect that I had to sit outside and have dinner, while watching the sun sink below the horizon. It was pure bliss. I had homemade sausage, kale and lentil soup, which was perfect for this weather. Have I mentioned how much I LOVE soup this time of year? Tonight I enjoyed it without any type of bread, but tomorrow I’ll make some cornbread to go along with it for Marcel. I may or may not have any, because I’d rather have an extra bowl of soup. It’s THAT good!

What is your upcoming week look like? I hope that whatever you find yourself doing that you’re soaking up some great weather, plus enjoying some great food!